A New Year, A New Who?

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It’s the first day of the new year and I can’t count how many times I’ve read or heard people say “a new year, a new you."  

“A new you."

When I think about the word “new”,  I think about doing something for the first time, like when I first got behind the wheel of a car.  My first kiss. The first time I went on a roller coaster.  The first time I did anything for the first time made me nervous because I had no idea how I would feel until I actually experienced it. 

I personally don’t think that people should think about it being a “new you".  It’s about applying what you didn’t know before to the next day, month, year.  Reflect back on all the highs and lows.   Let go of the lows by learning from them the next time you see a pattern occurring. Don't sit and wait for something to change.  Be the change and remember that you can't change other people. Sometimes the way to make things work is to change your own perspective.  Take the high road.  It's hard but it will save you a lot of energy in the end.  

I have spent so much time focusing on all the bad things that could happen instead of believing in myself enough to know that I will reach my goals because I make shit happen. Cherish the little things and everything that is going right when others feel wrong.  You are worthy of all the things that you want out of life but remember you have to work for them.  Sometimes luck is on our side and we're at the right place at the right time (I call that synchronicity) and most times you have to do whatever it takes however many mistakes you make, to turn your dreams into a reality.  

Toxicity surrounds us whether it’s happening here or around the world.  The beauty about freedom is that you can choose what you let into your life.  If you’re in a relationship that is consuming you to the point that you can’t go a day without obsessing and taking you away from the highest you that you can be, then leave it.  If you want a new job or make a transition then take action and just do it. If not now, when? 

Put your thoughts on paper.  What are your biggest fears?  What characteristics and personality traits does your dream partner have if you’re single.   List your achievements to date.  Volunteer.  Join a community with common interests.  Do whatever it takes to keep yourself motivated and inspired. Do this and then manifest the shit out of them.  

Is it going to be easy?  Fuck no.  A good friend gave me these exercises and I’m still having a hard time processing my thoughts onto paper but it’s definitely helping me.  I’m learning to be good to myself.  Forgive the past for it’s not the future.  Accept the things I cannot change.  Give myself permission to have bad days.  Be perfectly imperfect and forever humble. 

Wishing all a healthy and happy new year!  

 

Hugs and health,

Mishy

Master of Your Craft

Confidence.  How does it develop and are we naturally born with it?  

It’s been three years since I made the career change and the more I learn the more I realize how little I know.  In the beginning I was terrified.  Sure, I loved working out and I studied my ass off to get certified, but I knew nothing about teaching someone how to do an exercise properly. Fast forward to today, I am now over a thousand sessions into my training career and am grateful to God that I continue to fall more in love with what I do. I think about all the people that I have met and my heart is filled with so much love.  That doesn’t mean that all is always good.  I still have my moments.  I still have my doubts.  Am I doing enough and if so, how can I be better?  

To become a master at something doesn’t happen overnight. The title needs to be earned.  How?  Practice.  You have to do something repeatedly and do it yourself in order to teach it.  I don’t go out of my scope of practice but I continue to challenge myself with new things so like anything, I can master the movements and become a master at my craft.   It is now that I’m beginning to realize how many more people I want to reach and if it’s my destiny to do that.  

In order for a dream to come to life you have to believe.  You have to believe that all the lows and highs in life has given you the experience to follow your passions. It’s never too late.  I feel that people often put so much pressure on themselves and lose focus of what makes them unique.  Everyone on this planet has their own quirks.  What makes them them and if you have the freedom to do that then you’re fucking lucky. FREEDOM is so powerful.  Don’t waste what you’ve got and be aware of the things you need to work on and then work on it.  Don’t think about it, just do it.  That’s how you get shit done. Remember that nobody is perfect.  

Now with all of that has been said, here are five things that I have learned as I continue to master my life’s journey.  

  1.  Don’t be afraid - Fear continues to creep up on me in all of my decision making but what is there to be afraid of? If you continue to search and take action in reaching your goals you will eventually accomplish them. Maybe not in the way that you thought but you will carry over that life experience into the next.  
  2. Be Vulnerable - Don’t be afraid to ask for help.  There are tons of things that I still don’t know and there are so many people that are willing to help!  If you’re thinking about leaving your career, contact some of the people that have done it and ask for their advice.  Being vulnerable is a strength not a weakness, so use it wisely.  
  3. Surround Yourself with Like Minded People-  It may sound selfish but how are you supposed to develop as a person if you don’t surround yourself with people that embody qualities that inspire you to be better when you’re around them.  Why wouldn’t anyone want that?  If you’re having trouble doing that, look up local clubs or online communities that have similar core values.  Follow people that inspire you on instagram.  Make social media a positive experience. 
  4. Begin the day with a new quote or affirmation-  I wake up and read daily quotes.  Either I’m feeling a certain way and google a word with images for inspiration or I look on instagram.  I follow loads of quote instas and highly recommend it.  
  5. Believe! -  You have to believe in yourself if you want to be happy!  You have to be your biggest cheerleader.  We all have demons to battle and you are never alone in that!  You can do anything and be anything that you want as long as you believe you are worthy of it. Guess what?  YOU ARE.  

“Devote yourself to an idea.  Go make it happen.  Struggle on it.  Overcome your fears.  Smile.  Don’t you forget: this is your dream.” - Brendon Burchard

Hugs and health- Mishy

 

 

 

 

 

Connection

Contact, acquaintance, go-between, messenger,  network, relation, ally, associate, friend, mentor, sponsor.  What do all of these words have in common? For starters, when used as a noun, they’re all synonyms for the word “connection” (thesaurus.com).  Notice how the synonyms listed can go from something as surface as an “acquaintance” to something as deep as a  “mentor”.     Now ask yourself what the word “connection” means to you.  How often do you use this word and when you do, what settings are you normally in?  

I’ve pretty much heard that I “talk too much” my entire life.   My 7th grade math teacher was the first person to use the expression “you’ve got the gift of gab” and my name in the same sentence.  A gift? I thought to myself.  That’s a good thing right?    When I learned that I had mistaken his New Jersey sarcasm for a compliment, I shut down.  It’s not that I didn’t understand what he meant.  I shouldn’t be talking during class while he’s teaching.  It’s rude to interrupt but I was curious about so many things, especially when it came to learning about people and their interests.   So what types of personalities did I find myself gravitating towards at a young age? 

I met my best friend Shelley in Chinese school when we were 8 years old.  She sat in front of me and was super introverted.  As a young adolescent I always loved to sit back and observe people, especially the quiet ones. Shelley was one of those people.  She sat in front of me and was quiet as a mouse.  I thought to myself that I want to be friends with her, so I talked to her whenever I had a chance to.  Being that she sat in front of me, she had to turn her body entirely around to answer my questions.  At first, the teacher thought it was her that was doing all the talking and she would without fail get yelled at every Sunday, until she figured out it wasn’t Shelley.  It was me.  

So where has the “gift of gab” led me to today?  At the beginning of this post, I asked you to think about what the word “connection” means to you.  How often do you use it and in what context.    When I think about what it means to me, I think of friends, family, and all of the meaningful conversations I have collected over the course of my life to date.  

Now that we live in a world that is so technology driven, the in person connection seems to happening less and less.  I’ll be the first to admit that I am always on my phone when I’m not training.  I immediately go to check my phone in-between breaks.  I have FOMO which translates to “fear of missing out” if you’re wondering what that even means. I want to stay on top of trends and see what’s going on in people’s lives via Instagram and Facebook.  I can only speak for myself when I say that my phone has been running my life. If I had had a phone in the 7th grade (damn you Zack Morris), would I have missed out on opportunities to interact with people because I’m constantly on my phone all the time?  Would some of my dear friends not be in my life because I was too busy talking to someone via text to find the time to talk to them?  I don’t even want to imagine what my life would be without Shelley in it but at the same time thanks Facebook for keeping us up-to-date with each other’s lives via pictures and posts! So where’s the compromise?  

I noticed when I was traveling internationally for 3 weeks with limited wifi, how much more present and in the moment I was when I didn’t have access to the internet at my fingertips. What other observations did I make?  The list can go on and on but here are a few key takeaways:

Put your phone away when you’re having a meal with someone.  Don’t have it out on the table as you’ll get distracted hearing it go off and seeing notifications popping up on the screen.  The person in front of you deserves your full attention and you don’t want to make them repeat what they said twice because you were glancing down at your phone to see if that hot guy or girl you saw on tinder swiped to the right too.  

Text messages and emails drive me a bit mad. Having no knowledge of whether someone texted me back, who’s emailing me with  questions, and what’s going on in other people’s lives left more time for me to focus on mine.  How many times has someone texted you and you forgot to answer them back because you were in the middle of doing something. You even told yourself at the time, I’ll get back to them but never do and realize 5 days later.  The pressure of answering texts and emails  was off my shoulders because everyone knew I was traveling with limited access.  

It’s good to get lost sometimes.  Not having google maps or waze to help me navigate through Taiwan got me to think about looking at the map and figuring how to get from point A to point B (I am geographically challenged).  

 I listen to music A LOT.  I didn’t realize how much I relied on music to pass the time until I had no access to Spotify and Pandora.   I also just got a new phone so I didn’t have any of my purchased songs downloaded which meant I had to listen to the natural sounds of the subway and people talking all around me.  My ability to hear was extremely heightened and it was kind of soothing to hear the sound of the train tracks gliding over the railings.  

I need my instincts more than my phone aka you can’t google everything for answers.  My Taiwanese is mostly on point but my Mandarin is horrible and that’s pretty much the main dialect spoken in Taiwan.  Without having my phone to help me, I had to ask the people around me for help.  Look at my surroundings to figure out what looked familiar.  I was able to navigate through the subway and remember how to get back to my cousin’s place without any issues.  Oh and not to mention my Mandarin improved because I was forced to get out of my comfort zone and talk to people. 

Whatever your connection agenda is,you call the shots.  Just remember that you don’t always have to pull the trigger because some moments aren't worth the chance of possibly missing. 

Hugs and health,

Mishy

Everybody Wants to Rule the World

I got my first job when I was 15 years old. I was tired of hearing my parents tell me they would “provide what you need, not what you want” all the time and was determined to get everything I wanted when I wanted it.  Now don’t get me wrong.  My parents gave me a lot.  I just wanted more.  What child doesn’t?  

I’ll never forget that feeling of excitement when I got that “we would like to offer you the position” call.  My first offer! At the time, I felt like I had landed my dream job.  A sales associate at Sam Goody! For those of you who have never heard of Sam Goody, it was thee go to music store at one time. 

There was no Pandora, Spotify, SoundCloud, iTunes and who knows how many more music on demand apps are available.  I’m totally not hating on these apps by the way. They’re AMAZING.  Huge fan here.  

However, heading to the music store to buy the single of the week were monumental for me.  Nothing is more satisfying than having music on DEMAND.  It’s food for my brain, soul, thoughts, mindset, and sanity.  It’s like that feeling you have for your pet.  You can love them unconditionally and they never make you feel bad…not the way that humans do. The connection is so deeply rooted that it’s indestructible. 

Everybody wants to rule the world.  Or at least their own world. To preserve, I believe that you need to have those monumental moments for yourself.  No matter what your circumstances you’re finding the time to take care of you.  You deserve it.  You’re worthy of it.  I personally like to write and connect, so blogging has become what I do for me. 

How do you obtain this?  YOU make the CHOICE to.  You’re somebody's somebody but you gotta be able to maintain staying your own somebody at ALL times.  I hope that makes sense.  It does to me. :)  

You are your own boss.  What does that mean? Outside of corporate politics, you create the world in which you live in.  I have so much respect for anyone that works hard no matter the circumstances.  A CEO was someone’s assistant at one point or another so they could learn how to master their position. 

I am the CEO and I will always be my own assistant.  It’s how you learn and grow.  Look at misfortunes as lessons learned.  Moments that were meant to be no matter how tragic.  Negative thoughts will sometimes take over but the CEO in me tells the assistant in me to chill the fuck out. The more chill the more happy I am. Amen? Amen!

Now……...

GO RULE THE WORLD! (Tears for Fears playing in the background)

With mad worldly love,

Mishy

 

Beauty is in the Eye of the Beholder

I think it’s safe to say that we all have those days.  You roll out of bed after letting out a huge yawn and stumble to the bathroom with your eyes half open. That first look you catch of yourself in the mirror has you doing a double take.  Something about you looks different. Thoughts race through your head as you start to examine the reflection looking back at you.  Ugh is that a pimple I can barely see but know it’s going to only get bigger?  What did I eat last night that has got me feeling and looking so bloated?  Damn, I look good.  The lifestyle changes I’ve decided to make are starting to show and I’m loving what I see.  How did I let myself get to this place?  I need to start making changes soon. 

Whatever the thoughts, I’m always amazed with how fast time flies by.  The summer has come and almost gone.  Fall is quickly approaching and before you know it, it’s going to be time to make those New Years resolutions again.   How many times have you told yourself tomorrow is a new day and there’s always tomorrow or starting tomorrow.  

What about today?  What about right now?  Why tomorrow? 

I guess the point I’m trying to make here is whether you wake up feeling like shit or THE shit, it’s important to recognize the person looking back at you in the mirror TODAY.  It’s easy to get lost in our own perceptions, both psychological and physical.  The relationship we have with ourself is never-ending and it’s our personal duty to keep it real as much as possible.  

I titled this blog “Beauty is in the Eye of the Beholder” because it’s up to you to decide how your day is going to go no matter your circumstances. If you’re on your way to achieving a goal you never thought possible, create a new one so that once you’ve obtained it, you have more to look forward to. If you just made a decision that you’re unsure of, remember that it was your choice and you can choose to go another direction if you feel like you made a wrong turn somewhere.  

Progress is a minute by minute, hour by hour, day by day process and you have to be patient and loving to yourself in order to achieve the best you that you can be. Most importantly, forgive yourself and see the beauty in all of the lessons you have learned because when you're beautiful on the inside it projects on the outside.  That's what makes you BEAUTIFUL.  

Totes Ma Oats!

I’ve always wanted to try making overnight oats and now that I have, I wish I hadn’t waited so long! Have you ever tried something so good that you started shaking your body after the first bite?  Yeah, that was totally me that morning. I couldn’t believe how yummy it tasted!  I thought to myself, “you can eat this every day and never get sick of it!"

Other than the fact that overnight oats is so easy to make, I also love how easy it is to create different flavors.  It’s like going to get froyo and picking your favorite toppings after you’ve selected the flavor. The version I like the most is super simple and has very few ingredients.  A lot of recipes I looked at also included yogurt, nuts, different fruits, and natural sweeteners like honey or agave. 

Please don't wait as long as I did and make your very own overnight oats today!  You'll be happy you didn't! 

Ingredients:

1/2 cup of rolled oats

2 tablespoons of chia seeds

1/2 cup of almond milk

1/2 sliced banana 

1/4 cup of frozen blueberries

Directions:

Add rolled oats and chia seeds into a 1 pint size mason jar. Next, add your toppings (I chose sliced bananas and frozen blueberries).  Pour the almond milk into the jar and mix all the ingredients thoroughly together with a spoon. Screw the lid on top and place in the refrigerator to set overnight. It will be ready to eat in the morning.  

I hope you enjoy! :)

TRANSITION

Have you ever thought about quitting your job and starting a new career? I remember waking up feeling like I didn’t want to get out of bed weeks leading up to the day I decided to quit my job. I felt paralyzed with fear and anxiety. At the time I had no idea what I wanted to do next.  Personal training had always been in the back of my mind but I had worked so hard to get a promotion and kept telling myself that whatever this feeling was, it would go away eventually. Well, it didn’t. I impulsively walked up to my boss one day and told her I wanted to leave the company. I didn’t even have the intention to quit that day.  Her first question was "what do you want to do next."  I replied, "I have no idea but I know if I don’t take action now, I may never figure it out." 

Most of the time when people want to leave their job it’s because they’re not happy, but that wasn’t the case for me.  I loved my company. My bosses were loving mentors and my co-workers were like family to me. So what was it then?  

I believe now that it was synchronicity.  Have you ever heard of synchronicity? It’s defined as “the coincidental occurrence of events and especially psychic events that seem related but are not explained by conventional mechanisms of causality” (Merriam-Webster).  I like to think of these occurrences as messages from God and the universe telling you that the choices you have been making are keeping you on the right path.

Now this is where synchronicity comes in.  I had agreed to stay for 1 month instead of the usual 2 weeks to properly wrap things up at work  but had scheduled a trip to Miami to visit my best friend months before.  A trip was exactly what I needed to distract me from thinking about the choice I had made.  Time was winding down and I was starting to regret my decision.  Little did I know that it would be the catalyst for what has led to me where I am today.  

“Are you a personal trainer?” It was the third time someone had approached me with that question while I was working out in my best friend’s apartment complex gym.  It was then that I knew what my next steps would be.  I returned to LA on a mission aka  got a job at one of the trendiest gastropubs in Santa Monica for cash flow and study to take the exam to get certified so that I could start training professionally. 

Fast forward to today and I have been training for about two years.  I am so happy that I made the choice to leave and pursue fitness but I would be lying if I said it was easy.  I questioned and doubted myself so much through this process. You know what though?  Anything is possible if you put in the work to make it happen. Don’t give up when the going gets hard and reach out to people who remind you of who you are and why you’re doing what you’re doing when you start to lose your way. 

Transition is universal and constant throughout life. The beauty about choices is that they're yours to make.  Just remember the first step is making the choice to take action. 

 

Pesto My Heart!

Basil takes me back to one of my most favorite memories growing up in New Jersey.  I would watch my mom tend to her garden in the backyard during the summers and it seemed like there was always an endless supply of it.  I was inspired by this fond memory and decided to buy a basil plant of my own so that I too could have an abundance of this fragrant friend at my fingertips.  The first thing on my basil agenda? To make a pesto sauce with an extra kick by adding kale and spinach to boost up the nutrition!  Use it to marinate your favorite meats, toss in pasta, as a dip, salad dressing, the list goes on!  The recipe is vegan friendly and I hope you enjoy!  

Ingredients:

2 cups of basil

1 cup of baby kale

1 cup of spinach

4 cloves of garlic

3/4 cups of avocado oil (substitute with olive oil)

1/4 cup pine nuts 

pinch of salt and pepper to taste

Directions:

Place the basil, spinach, baby kale, garlic, pine nuts into a food processor and process for about 20 seconds (you may need to chop up by starting and stopping to help break the mixture down.  With the processor running, slowly drizzle the oil until pureed.  Taste the sauce and add salt and pepper as needed.   

Notes: 

Air is the enemy of pesto so use it right away or store the pesto in the refrigerator with plastic wrap directly on top with the air pressed out..  For later use, pack it into a container with a thin film of oil on top.  

Transformation

Transformation: a thorough or dramatic change in form or appearance.

I still remember how I felt before I hit the share button like it was yesterday. The first time I ever attempted to write a blog was on Instagram 8 months ago.  I was  touched by all the transformation stories people were sharing and inspired to share my own.  I wasn't sure how people were going to react but reminded myself that my reasoning for doing so was coming from a place of love and connection.  I want to kick off my first blog with my transformation story as it was my first and written from my heart.  Thank you for taking the time to read it and I hope it resonates with you one way or another.  Let the blogging begin! :)


This is my transformation story: 
Ever hear "you're too hard on yourself?" That pretty much summed up my outlook on life no matter how hard I was working to improve it. So hard that I became bulimic trying to control it my senior year of college. On the outside, life was great and it was,  but I couldn't acknowledge it because my mindset was not in the right place. I had the most supportive family and friends a girl could ever ask for, but felt like no one understood me.  That picture on the left was taken a few years ago. I had just moved to LA for work and promised myself that my eating disorder wasn't going to follow. I was wrong. It got worse. After trying to battle the disorder for 4 years I decided to check myself into a outpatient program center.  Fast-forward 3 1/2 years later I quit my job in advertising sales to become a personal trainer so I could help people heal psychologically through the physical.  Words can't really express the feeling a person gets when they're physically strong. You don't have to be an athlete, you don't have to love working out, but what you do need is to have the mindset to want to move. I promise you'll learn to love it when consistent. It's a super human power that we can all have. Exercise releases endorphins and is the solution for so many diseases. Ask for help when you need it. Know that you are never alone in your battles. Do whatever it takes to keep going. DIG DEEP! This is my transformation story. What's yours?